Don't get me wrong: there are a lot of things I don't have - that I thought I would - at 32 years old.
I don't have a relationship.
BUT I also don't have a sh*tty relationship.
No one lies to me, makes my life miserable, or expects me to do everything for them. No emotional roller coaster, no divorce, no broken home. Could be worse. Has been worse!
I don't have a family.
BUT....I DON'T HAVE KIDS!!!
Let's face it, that's a shit-ton less work for me! I get eight - or more - hours of sleep a night. This fact alone makes me a much nicer person. I'm sure there are awesome guys out there who would actually do 50% of the housework, but none of them have proposed to me yet.
I don't have a prestigious career.
BUT I don't have a job I hate.
I don't work 70 hours a week at a job that sucks the life out of me, with no time left for the things I want to do. I have a great schedule doing work I enjoy, with people I enjoy, and relatively low stress. Having experienced the opposite, there's a lot to be said for this.
Forgiveness = giving up the hope that the past could be different than it was,
Happiness = giving up the hope that the present could be different than it is.
The moment I descend into self-flagellation over what I could be doing, or should be doing, or what everyone else is doing, I become immediately dissatisfied with my life. This is another reason why Facebook is the devil. We often feel perfectly fine with ourselves until we start comparing our lives to all these people that *seem* to have something we don't.
If I decided to wait until I had a boyfriend or a better job or financial prosperity to be happy, god only knows how long that might take. I have enough. And that's all I need. If I can't accept myself and my life and exactly the way things stand today, there's no hope for tomorrow.
For every little thing you don't have - that you think you want - is something you *DON'T* have that you should be damn thankful for!!
So seriously, give up the hope that the next person who comes into your life is going to make you happy, give up the hope that a different job would make it all better, give up the hope that your family is going to get along one day...and see if you can figure out a way to accept exactly what's in front of you. If that fails, here's a quote to live by:
"I may not be where I wanna be yet,
but I sure as hell ain't where I was!"
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