if you no longer walked the earth, the ratio of people-who-give-a-damn to a**holes would skew further in the wrong direction. and i don't want the a**holes to win. the people who selfishly take from others but don't give, who treat people like crap or make them feel disposable -- as if it doesn't matter if they are here or gone. you have likely spent your life ensuring others know how much they are loved and valued for exactly who they are, with all of their flaws and imperfections. you are worth no more or less than any other person, therefore you are equally deserving of the loving care you have selflessly given to others when they were at THEIR worst. some people either cannot or WILL not give others what they need. the a**holes may never change, but does that mean they should get to change YOU? who gave them the right to make others feel worthless? you have the guts to be ruthlessly honest with yourself and others about how difficult this life really can be, and that is a gift. do you know how many people out there would trade a hundred pleasantries, a thousand shallow exchanges of small talk, for one real conversation with a genuine person like you?
i can't tell you that one day you are going to wake up and get what you deserve, that the people in your life are going to have an epiphany and realize how screwed up their priorities are, that the self-centered people of the world will figure out what it means to give to others.
i CAN tell you that, 4 years ago when i roamed the streets of downtown nashville alone on what was to be my last night, homeless people on the street cared more about me than the 2 people who had most made me want to kill myself. someone with no home-no family-no possessions could take the time to stop and look me in the eye (how many strangers would even notice sorrow in a passerby) and say “it can’t be THAT bad, can it?” but the 2 jerks who had ripped me apart, lied to me, betrayed me, and (the most recent of whom) abandoned me did not so much as phone my family to tell them i had written them suicide notes, much less pick up the phone when i called them, or do anything whatsoever.
in the end it came down to a choice, and i decided that even if i never did anything else good in my life, I would NEVER treat another person with the disregard they had shown me. animals are treated better than I was by them. i almost destroyed my own life, and that of my family members, for people so disgusting they wouldn’t act to save the life of someone they purported to “love.” perhaps that merely sounds arrogant and self-righteous, to stick around telling myself that i’m better than them. but i suddenly became enraged when I went back to the hotel, because here i was about to hand over the power to determine my worth – the value of my very life, to be precise – to people who didn’t give a damn whether i lived or died.
you would probably drop whatever you’re doing to help any random person if you thought they needed you…is that the kind of person who deserves to die? the only person you have to show up for right now is YOU. sometimes we have to give ourselves what we wish we could get from others.
why should you NOT kill yourself? because “ the world (not you) is effing insane,” to quote the unlost. “The problem isn’t you. The problem is that we live in a world of and it’s killing us all. Yeah, you heard me right: We’re LIVING IN A FREAKING INSANE ASYLUM, an insane asylum where we all feel as if we’rethe only ones struggling, as if we’re the only ones living a silent lie and plastering on a fake smile for the world to see. But we’re not.”
one minute, one hour, one day at a time = all you have to do.
“Whoever destroys a soul, it is considered as if he destroyed an entire world. Whoever saves a life, it is as if he saved an entire world. –Mishnah Sanhedrin 4:5; Babylonian Talmud Tractate Sanhedrin 37a